In a new Guardian article that attempts to shine light on the custody crisis, reporter Sonia Sodha exposes a couple of “dangerous” family court fallacies, while unwittingly propagating other false narratives that are much more harmful. It’s important to recognize these, so women can begin to educate each other, the public and the media about what is really going on in family courts around the world.
Sodha exposes the “dangerous fallacy” propagated by fathers’ rights activists (FRA’s) that family courts are biased against men. However, Sodha misses the FRA variation that claims the family court crisis is gender neutral—caused by generic corruption—that harms both men and women. This is much more damaging than the older, biased-against-fathers fallacy, because it confuses, diverts and divides women. This renders women incapable of uniting as a class to fight the crisis—which is the only way to end it.
And that is why these covert FRA’s spend so much time and resources creating and infiltrating family court and social services reform groups, alienation and child abuse prevention groups, as well as parent, children and grandparent rights groups. Beware of all of these groups!
The other fallacy Sodha exposes is that this biased-against-men narrative is based on men not automatically getting equal parenting time, which they claim is their “right” and which, not coincidentally, reduces their child support. But this is not just a FRA fallacy. It is law in many places and is a direct result of the Family Court agenda to entitle and empower fathers.
Sodha goes on to say, “Evidence shows that the disproportionately male judiciary is more likely to rule against abused women and children.” There are two false narratives in that one statement. First, there are plenty of female judges who discriminate against women, apparently to keep a warm seat at the old boys’ table. And the problem is not that judges are ruling against “abused women”. They are ruling against “women”, abused or not. By continuing to identify the problem as of abusers, it covers the true patriarchal nature…
Sodha inadvertently spreads another false narrative that stems from the idea that judges are just getting “abuse” cases wrong. She states that “women who have suffered domestic abuse…face an uphill battle” because “some judges have no understanding of domestic abuse…” This implies that training judges will fix the problem, when the facts, evidence and thousands-of-cases refute.
Sodha talks about cuts to legal aid, but the truth is, even women who have money for the best legal help, usually lose. She discusses how parental alienation is mainly being used against mothers, which is true, but does not make clear that alienation is the number one male entitlement tactic, and that after custody is switched, the father is allowed to alienate the children from the mother.
Sodha concludes that the “balance of evidence points to a system that is biased against abused women and children, not innocent, falsely accused men.”
The truth is: the system is not just biased against abused women and children. It systematically and methodically discriminates against all women and children.
PLEASE share widely to help educate moms and the public and dispel the false narratives.
The idea that family courts are biased against men is a dangerous fallacy
Sonia Sodha is chief leader writer at the Observer, and deputy opinion editor at the Guardian
ACTIVISTS: Please tweet @soniasodha! The FRA’s are inundating the reporter’s feed with their BS. Let’s start getting our voices heard. You can link to the FB post or the TWC blog or the The Custody Crisis powerpoint. You can also email the reporter and ask her to write another article dispelling the false narratives: sonia.sodha [at] theguardian.com
[Pictured: Sonia Sodha]
Cindy Dumas, M.A. has been researching, writing, and raising awareness about the Custody Crisis since 2003, when she was unable to protect her children from their abusive father. She fled into hiding when Family Court failed her and was tricked into returning home, when her children were given to their abusive father.