“I hope you know how much I tried to get you…I have no idea what to do without you.”
Kelsey, Autumn’s mom
Systemic sexism has led to yet another child’s murder, by “homicidal violence” according to the coroner.
A Sherburne County, Minnesota Family Court judge ordered shared custody despite evidence of abuse, including a protective order. Worse, the father was permitted to keep Little Autumn completely away from her mother for over a half year, so the abuse and her deteriorating condition was not fully realized.
Police had been called to the father’s house by neighbors who suspected child abuse over 30 times, many of which were referred to social services. Meanwhile, her mother, Kelsey, desperately tried to get custody and enforce her visitation, to no avail.
Autumn’s step-siblings described terrible abuse including binding her hands and trapping her inside a sleeping bag with only her head poking out and left to sleep like that.
Autumn’s cause of death was asphyxia caused by drowning but an autopsy revealed puncture wounds on Autumn’s head, hair loss, atrophied muscles, severe emaciation, bruising on her hands and hips, and bleeding in her abdomen and brain.
The father and stepmother have been arrested and charged with murder.
As usual, the father was empowered by a system steeped in sexism to take and abuse “his” child, while a wonderful, primary nurturing mother was disempowered and unable to maintain custody or visitation and prevented from protecting her child.
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Kelsey’s message to Autumn:
My beautiful sweet baby. These photos are a perfect representation of who you are. Always smiling and being silly. You loved SO much. Your father kept you from me for several months and he then took your life. I hope you know how much I tried to get you. I hope you know how much I love every single part of who you are and I am so proud of how incredibly kind, thoughtful and amazing you are. I have no idea what to do without you. Noah and Delylah and all of your siblings were lucky to have a sister like you. I am so proud to be your mother and I know you will always be with me. I love you Autumn Lee.
Before Minn. Girl's Death, Police Were Called to Dad and Girlfriend's Home 30 Times
“You are all complicit in the cover up of my sons’ horrific abuse…Over three years ago, you gave full custody to a child abuser who had been sexually abusing my sons and allowing others to do so for many years, for most of their lives, apart from the two years I kept them safe after they [first] disclosed.”
“An Open Letter to the Judges Who Have Ruined my Sons Childhoods”
Brave and determined, Samantha has videotaped an open letter to the Family Court and Appellate judges who gave full custody to her ex, despite an STD, drugs in the kids' systems, and other strong evidence that he had sexually assaulted them over a long period of time.
Sam has not been allowed to see her boys for a very long time. She is hoping this open letter goes viral and helps her in her efforts to reunite with her sons, so please share.
In her open letter, Sam details the strong evidence of sexual abuse disregarded by Family Court Judge Jeremy Lea. Judge Lea spun the evidence of the father’s drugging of the children to Sam being the one who drugged them so as to justify switching custody to him. She also holds Appellate Court Justices Jackson and Lord McFarland accountable since they upheld Lea's ruling.
It’s important to understand that Family Court judges’ enabling of sexual abuse is a subset of the millions of contested custody cases around the world in which judges switch custody to fathers, abusive or not. It is also a subset of men’s age-old implicit prerogative to sexually assault women and children. Both have had tacit approval through systems which permit men to get away with sexual assault.
These two issues should not be confused, because, while child sexual assault is the most horrific crime, it is not the core issue in Family Court. The fundamental issue in contested custody cases is POWER: the systemic emPOWERing of fathers to take custody of children away from primary nurturing mothers, which entitles them to abuse them if they so choose; and the systemic disemPOWERing of mothers from maintaining custody and protecting their children after divorce.
There are plenty of organizations fighting against child sexual assault. This will do nothing for mothers trying to protect their children in Family Court.
The only thing that will help mothers keep and protect their children after divorce is a new system where judges do not have the power to empower fathers and disempower mothers.
Sam's FB page: https://www.facebook.com/justice4s/
June 7, 2018
Polygraph & Hair Analysis Prove Samantha Didn’t Coach & Drug Boys
April 19, 2017
Close Friend Reveals Sam's “Entire Ordeal”: How She “Fought Tirelessly” to Protect Her Boys But Family Court Failed Her
April 7, 2017
Massive Manhunt Launched for Mum on the Run
June 4, 2016
Hearing Tuesday: Samantha’s Family & Friends Plead for Help
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“Custody Crisis Rabbit Holes” is a series of articles illustrating some of the main ways women are being misled about the nature and cause of the custody crisis. They divert from the understanding that the crisis is women unjustly losing custody and an understanding that the core cause is systemic male entitlement. The fact that so many women are getting caught up in these rabbit holes, sidetracked from the truth, is a main reason there has been no progress in a half century on this critical social justice issue.
There are numerous rabbit holes women go down when attempting to make sense of why they lost custody or were unable to protect their children in Family Court. Depending on the facts of their case, social media involvement, and which organizations they turn to for help, women enter different rabbit holes, often getting stuck in more than one.
Some Custody Crisis rabbit holes:
“Abuse” rabbit hole occupants believe the problem is judges giving kids to abusers, rather than fathers; “money” rabbit hole inhabitants believe it is profiteering, funding or other financial incentives causing the crisis; “alienation” rabbit hole residents say parental alienation is the problem; and the "rights" rabbit hole is occupied by those who believe the problem is denial of women's, parent, family or children’s rights. With the exception of women's rights, they are all gender neutral concepts, and none identify the core issue as systemic male entitlement. Each of them will be gone over in depth in future segments.
Some rabbit holes are promoted by well-intentioned activists, who themselves misconstrue the crisis. However, many groups are created or infiltrated by fathers’ rights activists [FRA’s] who operate covertly as parent, family, grandchildren and children’s rights activists, or as victims of parental alienation or a corrupt system.
FRA's entice women into rabbit holes to confuse, divert and divide them, and to garner support for their own (often hidden) agenda—family court legislation that benefits men at the expense of women and children, such as mandatory equal parenting. They spend enormous amounts of time and energy on bamboozling women, because they know the one thing that can seriously threaten men's power over "their" women and children after divorce is women uniting as a class to take back the power to keep and protect their children.
Women should not feel bad about getting caught in a rabbit hole or two. Most go down at least one during their Family Court nightmare, because misinformation about the crisis abounds. The important thing to recognize is that all of these rabbit holes divert and distract from understanding that the root of the crisis is systemic sexism and that is what needs to be eradicated to stop the taking and endangering of our children.
A cultural shift is necessary recognizing the importance of the primary attachment figure, usually the mother, in a child's life, along with legislation for a new system which will uphold the best interests of children after divorce. Because the Family Court system is designed so judges have the power to discriminate against and oppress women, custody cases must be removed from Family Court and heard in a regular civil court with a jury, along with other due process protections outlined in the “Child Custody Act”.
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“Mommy let's hide. I want to stay home. Protect me mom, I don't want to leave.”
Ten minutes after a Dutch judge issued his ruling giving the abusive father sole custody, police came and took 3 year-old Lily-Mae screaming and crying from her mother.
The judge justified this horrific treatment by deeming Lily-Mae’s mother “uncooperative” and restricted her to occasional supervised visits.
“Uncooperative” is a cousin to “alienation” and “unfriendly parent” and “interference in custody”, all stock justifications used by judges to switch custody to the father.
3 words explain this universal horror: Systemic Male Entitlement.
Women still, after 10,000 years, do not have the power to keep their children if the father decides he wants them, whether for financial reasons, to maintain control, to vindictively punish the mother, to abuse the child, or whatever.
Time for women to Wise Up and Rise Up!
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Video of the seizure:
“The judge spoke, and with that Lily-Mae was snatched away. Away from her home, from her family, away from everything familiar to her.
And why? Not because she was not safe at home, not because she was mistreated, not because mom, grandpa and grandma didn't take good care of her.
Because Mommy can't make contact with the man who mistreated her. The man she fled from when she got pregnant, to protect herself and her baby.
Lily-Mae has been living with her mom and grandmother for three and a half years since she was born. And after three and a half years it was decided that because mum cannot cooperate, the child goes to the biological father.
She has been forcibly taken. Against the advice of the Child Protection Board! Against the advice of the general practitioner, behavioral expert, and psychologist. Away from the place where she was loved, where she was loved and cared for, where all her friends are. First to a foster home, and from there to a man she has never seen all her life.
Mother, grandmother and grandfather remain in a quiet and empty house, a house full of toys, cuddly toys, doors full of photos, a nursery and an empty bed.”
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Cindy Dumas, M.A. has been researching, writing, and raising awareness about the Custody Crisis since 2003, when she was unable to protect her children from their abusive father. She fled into hiding when Family Court failed her and was tricked into returning home, when her children were given to their abusive father.