The Truth Is: There Is No “Protective Parent Dilemma”
The “Protective Parent's Dilemma” discussion panel is an offshoot of the excellent documentary “Allen v. Farrow”, but unfortunately, it is spreading misinformation about the Custody Crisis which is important to rebut and clarify.
Allen v. Farrow is an eye-opening documentary that details the efforts of actress Mia Farrow to protect her daughter, Dylan, after she reported sexual abuse by her father, director Woody Allen.
This panel, however, is portraying the Custody Crisis as a mere difficulty that both fathers and mothers encounter while attempting to protect their children in Family Court.
That is far from the truth.
The truth is: there is no mere “Dilemma” that “Parents” face. There is a Crisis devastating countless mothers and their children, not fathers. Judges are routinely switching custody from good, loving mothers to abusive and child-molesting fathers, not vice versa.
In furtherance of this spin, moderator Kathleen Russell—founder of Center for Judicial Excellence, a gender-neutral Family Court reform organization—invited on the panel two fathers claiming the mothers of their children are abusive and alienating. (A quick google search casts doubt on at least one of them.) Russell brought on the panel only one protective mother and a friend of Mia’s, who admitted she doesn’t know much of anything about the Family Court “dilemma” that was the subject of her panel.
Russell asks the two men to talk about how they were alienated from their children by the purportedly abusive mothers. This spins parental alienation to a gender-neutral issue as well, which clearly contradicts facts, evidence and the message in the documentary: that it is mothers like Mia who are being regularly falsely accused by judges of alienation after reporting child sexual abuse by the father.
The two fathers complain about having had to spend a lot of money on their custody case. This is the position of the neo-fathers’ rights organizations, who claim the problem is family court officials profiting off both fathers and mothers. Russell has supported the fathers’ rights pseudo-documentary “Divorce Corp”, which asserts the problem in Family Court is gender-neutral profiteering.
The solution proffered for this profiteering is the fathers’ rights main agenda: mandatory equal parenting laws, which are extremely harmful to women and children. So, some mothers who support the “cottage industry” explanation may be inadvertently supporting activism that harms them.
Framing the Custody Crisis as a gender-neutral dilemma is not only inaccurate, it is incredibly damaging to women’s efforts to end the crisis. It confuses, diverts, and divides when it is vital for women to come together as women, as a class, in order to gain the power necessary to end the systemic male entitlement/discrimination causing the crisis.
Link to the discussion panel:
If you would like to engage in activism to help end the Custody Crisis by raising awareness, you can let the producers at Jane Doe Films know you are unhappy about this panel. Women from around the world are being affected by misinformation in any part of the world, so women from all over are encouraged to take action: firstname.lastname@example.org. You can cc to The Women's Coalition if you want: WomensCoalitionIntl@gmail.com.
TWC NOTE: There have been two other panels so far, one focusing on perpetrator grooming and the other on parental alienation. Thankfully, neither portrayed the crisis as gender neutral, but there are some critical misconceptions which are important to identify. Watch this page for upcoming posts which will clarify.
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Cindy Dumas, M.A. has been researching, writing, and raising awareness about the Custody Crisis since 2003, when she was unable to protect her children from their abusive father. She fled into hiding when Family Court failed her and was tricked into returning home, when her children were given to their abusive father.