“…[Keira’s death] was no accident, but a deliberate act by a disturbed man empowered by a Family Court system that enabled him. I believe this was preventable. He did the unthinkable, the worst possible thing, which was to remove her from this world completely and thus leaving me to bear this pain for the rest of my life.”
Jennifer, Keira’s mom
“We did everything imaginable. We brought motions when we needed to bring them. We got court orders after court orders. The money wasn’t an issue for us and we still couldn’t save this child. I know a lot of people who have complained…that their child is suffering harm… because of the way the court system currently is.”
Phillip, Keira’s stepfather
Canadian Broadcasting's National TV just aired a story [linked below] about how a father jumped off a cliff with his daughter, Keira, after being given unsupervised visitation by a Family Court judge.
Although this is a well-intentioned attempt at raising awareness, it misleads the public as to the nature and cause of the custody crisis, and ineffective solutions are being proposed.
Keira’s mom, Jennifer, is a physician, and her new husband, Phillip, is an attorney, and even their best efforts to protect her failed. They said if they could not protect Keira, people with less education and resources would not be able to either.
They are talking to CBC to bring attention to problems in Family Court they believe led to Keira’s death. However, like so many mothers, Jennifer attributes the failure to things that occurred in her case, rather than looking at the larger picture.
They believe the problem in family court is that emotional abuse of children is not taken as seriously as physical abuse, and if there had been physical abuse Keira may have been protected. But there are countless cases where custody is given to fathers when there is substantial evidence of, or even substantiated, physical or sexual abuse.
Another problem they cite is that spousal abuse is being deemed irrelevant to parenting, i.e. a man who abuses his wife can still be a good father. A Family Court DV questionnaire is touted in the story as a solution to this problem when that will make no difference whatsoever. Even in states where judges are trained in DV and there is a presumption against custody to perps, judges are still giving these fathers custody.
So, unfortunately, the public is again being misled by MSM into believing that judges are unwittingly giving custody to abusive fathers and diverted into believing that if there were just more judicial training or new child safety or domestic violence laws, children would be protected.
But the truth is, the problem is not lack of training, laws or resources, but an agenda to keep men empowered in their family after divorce—and the Family Court system is designed so judges can effectuate that persisting male entitlement.
This means the only solution to the crisis affecting millions of women and children all over the world is to get custody cases out of Family Court and into a real civil court with a jury and other due process protections.
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7/25/2020 07:19:02 pm
I'm going through the same thing. My daughter is saying since 3 years old that her father is molesting her. DCP&P protects the father no matter what. We have 7 witnesses.They don't care. The message they send is that you can't report anything. But on the other hand you have to. In other words if you do you can lose custody of your child for being the messenger. If you don't you are neglecting your child. I feared to report anything. My daughter did report to her therapist and still it's me they say... DCP&P says I'm delusional, that I'm coaching, and alienating.. and I read articles where they use the same damn words to other moms like candy in their mouths.CPS protect do not protect women and children but only the father's and step parents who are the perpetrators. CPS everywhere in the world must be stopped.
7/26/2020 02:56:26 pm
I have also had experiences with NJ DCP&P together with CAS in Canada who have all decided to support the narrative of my violent convicted felon abuser, that when the children report the different types of abuse they have been experiencing they can't be believed because the father and his team of professionals insist that I, their mother, have been brainwashing the children to have false memories of abuse. They even came up with a label, to say that I am mentally ill with Munchausen's by Proxy. They do this despite the fact that I have a lot of documented evidence, including audio files, that allows everyone to actually walk through some of the traumatizing events that the children have been reporting, which proves that I have not created false stories to brainwash the children with at all! I have emails from the child protection workers documenting their rejection of my evidence, as they carry on supporting my abuser's false narratives against me. I also have police reports provided by officers who knew that one of the child protection workers was lying when she denied to the police having any knowledge of the domestic violence history. Everything is documented to prove that she was lying to support the child at the time being sent to the father where the Canadian police and Canadian doctors warned there was a risk of death. I have also been told by Canadian child protection workers that if I were to abide by orders of a NJ Judge and send a child to where the child is at risk of harm, I would be in trouble for failing to protect. Then they ran away and washed their hands, waiting for me to decide what to do. Obviously, together with the orders from the Canadian police at the time, I protected the child...but then in trying to protect the child, I was threatened with arrest for kidnapping, and the Canadian child protection worker tried to have that enforced! Thankfully the police were able to help in the end but things continue to get worse and more dangerous, and we have nowhere to turn because the child workers in power are abusers themselves who are lying and manipulating to support the abusive father! There are too many layers to my story to write about in one post but I can certainly relate to a lot of these stories from other moms. I documented and timestamped a prediction recently that if I were to call NJ DCP&P to report to them that I had found that my 11 yr old posted a suicide note while in NJ with the father, that DCP&P would tell me that everything is fine and that they would not do anything to help. I then called DCP&P to report the information, as suggested by other NJ professionals, and the DCP&P worker didn't even go talk to the child while proving my prediction to be accurate...the immediate response from DCP&P to me was, "Oh the child is fine - I saw her last week and I closed the file." I have the exact words documented as evidence. I was not surprised that DCP&P ignored the suicide note and told me that everything was fine, but at least I expected that they would go talk to my child first, then talk to the father, and THEN come back to me and tell me that they believed whatever lies and coverups the father was feeding them...but I was shocked at their immediate response, that they decided right away that my child was "fine" because they had seen her "last week". I was calling to send them the online posts that the child was actually suicidal while with her father, so how could their response be that "Oh she's fine" !! They obviously did not want to hear that they were WRONG to close the file, and they were WRONG to determine that the child was fine the week prior because there was new evidence showing that she is NOT fine at all because she is actually posting that she is SUICIDAL. Nobody cares. My children are obviously just a number in a dangerously corrupt system. 3 out of 4 children have had issues with self-harm and suicide because of the different types of abuse they have been forced to deal with at the hands of their father despite criminal records, and despite early therapist records predicting that this would happen if his original supervised visits were lifted to be unsupervised...
7/26/2020 12:00:55 am
Children's lives and the decisions about them must be taken out of the adversarial - or any other - legal system and they must be given a voice and a choice in their own future.
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Cindy Dumas, M.A. has been researching, writing, and raising awareness about the Custody Crisis since 2003, when she was unable to protect her children from their abusive father. She fled into hiding when Family Court failed her and was tricked into returning home, when her children were given to their abusive father.