Illinois mom Aneta Hadzi-Tanovic has filed an $8 million federal lawsuit against Family Court judge Robert Wade Johnson, the GAL, and her ex for conspiring to deprive her under the color of law of her right to due process and equal protection, as well as for the intentional torts "abuse of process" and "intentional infliction of emotional distress".
Aneta’s custody nightmare mirrors women's cases all over the country and world in which Family Court judges disregard substantial negative evidence about the father, and fabricate negative evidence about the mother, in order to justify switching custody to the father. In Aneta’s case, the judge ignored substantial evidence of physical, psychological and emotional abuse by the father, much of it gathered by police, a forensic interviewer and social services. Instead of protecting the children, the judge falsely found Aneta to have coached them to report abuse (i.e. alienation), hence emotionally abusive, despite no evidence to support that finding. Then he allowed the father to alienate the kids from her, to the point that they now refuse to talk to her on the phone and are so badly behaved in supervised visitation that she cannot keep a supervisor. Aneta had a wonderful, loving relationship with her children and believed their disclosures of abuse. She did everything possible to protect them and maintain custody, but now her relationship with them has been destroyed. She has not seen her children in over a year. Through her pain, Aneta has managed to gather the strength to hit back by filing this federal lawsuit detailing how the judge and GAL conspired in the taking and alienating of her children. 42 U.S.C. §1983 does not provide for injunctions against state judges, so it will not affect the custody ruling or bring her children back. But Aneta hopes publicity on the injustice she has endured, and especially a win in her suit, will help her case moving forward and help expose the injustices women everywhere are being subjected to. PLEASE SHARE, comment and react! LAWSUIT COUNTS 1. Conspiracy to deprive of due process [42 U.S.C. §1983] 2. Conspiracy to deprive of equal protection under the law [42 U.S.C. §1983] 3. Abuse of process [intentional tort] 4. Intentional infliction of emotional distress [intentional tort] TWC NOTE: If you know of media that may be interested in covering this story, ask them contact us at [email protected]. IN ANETA’S OWN WORDS: My ex has been abusing my children and me for very long time. He filed 6 times to DCFS claiming I am abusing my children, all of which were rejected as unfounded. My children reported that he is forcing them to lie, but nothing has been done about it. I filed a Motion for 604.10(b) Psychological Evaluation and that was denied. In June 2017, I was forced to sign a 50/50 Allocation Judgment under a threat by the GAL that if I don’t sign it, they will take my kids away. This was all 2 days after the Judge allowed my attorney to withdraw without giving me 21 days to retain new one, all of which is in direct violation of the Illinois Supreme Court Rule 13. After the divorce, my ex intensified his abuse and my children reported him to social services, school officials, police, DCFS, and even a video-recorded forensic interview was done. Even though all the evidence was against my ex, the police, social services and forensic investigations were all quickly dismissed after the former GAL got involved again into everything. In court it was all turned against me, with multiple false testimonies by the GAL, and my time was reduced from 50% to supervised visits only. There were periods of 6 months when I didn’t see or even talk to my children at all because my ex and the GAL would not agree to any supervisors. And then when supervisors were finally appointed, my ex would attack one after another for supposedly not doing their job, and they would refuse to do any more supervision. In the meantime my children went from loving and caring and wanting to spend time with me, to swearing at me, attacking me, and stealing the stuff from my house, which was also why the last 4 supervisors refused come around my children again and supervise visits. NOTE: If you'd like to join your local coalition, email: [email protected]
167 Comments
7/1/2020 05:35:07 pm
I've had a 10 year custody battle with my attorney- ex- husband who got custody from a judge who knew him...long story.
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Elizabeth Parr (Stone)
7/25/2020 07:27:25 pm
Hello Ann,
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Ann Darsky
8/1/2021 01:21:45 pm
I hear ya!
Dana Cappola
7/26/2020 07:11:34 am
I am so sorry for your situation. I have been living the carbon copy nightmare. My ex and his lawyer are buddies. Through lies and false testimony my children were switched to my ex back in 2011. He destroyed my relationship with my now 17 year old daughter and I finally have my 13 year old daughter back under some BS agreement I signed because I will do anything to have my child. Since 2011 I have been bounced between 4 different judges. One I had to appeal and won the appeal yet the next judge would not follow the appellate courts mandate! So it was all for nothing. The abuse of this system in this country is so corrupt. I would love to get involved in exposing these abuses of power.
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Ann Darsky
8/1/2021 01:15:23 pm
Are you in California? 5/24/2022 02:40:47 am
I am glad that you filed a 1983 however our organization files very serious federal complaints that actually block the court reverse the damages
Aletha Cassity
9/10/2022 05:11:50 am
To all of the attorneys, how can we file a class action suit? 1/26/2024 06:22:35 pm
Please read my recently published book, “Mindful Child Custody” by Herman Gill, Ph.D. 7/26/2020 02:01:21 pm
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Tina Scarborough
9/12/2020 01:05:40 pm
I hope You an Your children get justice.. I'm fixing to try an do the same thing. Would love some tips before I go into the Lions Dean!!! The jude on my Grandauthers case an broken all kind of laws an lied an the Xs lawyer is a Judge in the same town an hes broken Laws as well an lied an it's on paper!! Look up on f.b. #justice4braylie it's a lil info about the case . Been going on for 6 years an 50 something thousand dollars .. it's all Corruption an ghe Bar Association are always on the Judges/ Lawyers side... God bless hope you get what you deserve an your Children.. Tona
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Danielle
8/1/2021 01:30:41 pm
DO NOT GO INTO THE LIONS DEN ALONE. You won’t come out of it. I tried already and almost ruined me. This organization will help you!!! Federal Laws, paper-work along with fillings will bury you. You’re case will be dismissed on a paper filing error or something else. You need an attorney no matter what.
Abby
9/12/2020 02:36:32 pm
ann,
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1/8/2021 11:42:44 pm
Hey Abby,
Lori Philipps
4/9/2021 06:57:56 pm
I am still living in my nightmare. Married 20 years to Narcissistic Sociopath husband who was 11 yrs older than me. He was a very good Criminal defense Attorney for over 35 yrs in our town. I filed for divorce 3 weeks after having breast cancer surgery. I never had the courage before became he told me I would never live to the finalization. Getting cancer I was able to tell Drs about what was going on in my home, he would not be able to hurt me. I was so wrong, he was his own attorney in our case, no judge in our town would hear our case. We ended up with a Judge from a different town that was a Probate Judge. My Ex. Controlled the entire case. I had to go over two hrs away to get a Attorney to take my case. Our boys were 15 and 19. My ex manipulated the entire case, I never was even granted a supervised visit with my 15yr old. In the end I had spent over 15, 000.00 that I had to borrow, I got a divorce, and lost my boys to their crazy father over six years ago. I missed my youngest sons entire high school years , I went to his games and activities, but the Ex stood guard so I could watch at a distance. The oldest I missed his college years, he got married I found out on Facebook . I try to call send text messages and up until about 2 yrs ago they saw them , but I have been blocked since then. Most serious cases of parental alienation are highl profil divorces like Dr and Lawyers. Judges and GAL and counselors and anyone involved need to know about parental alienation. My Heart is broken, I miss my boys and they have alienated the entire rest of my family. I pray one day I will have them back in my life. Our children deserve to have both parents. Any parent that makes their child hate the other parent should be held accountable for child abuse. But also we need to make Judges and other people that allow this accountable also. Then maybe this will stop. Sorry this is so long. Most of our stories are so similar. I pray for our kids that they know we love them and that one day soon they will be Home again.
Ann Darsky
8/1/2021 01:13:15 pm
Is there anybody in California who would like to start a class action lawsuit ?
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Susan carlton
8/1/2021 06:31:30 pm
I am interested in hearing more about what you are thinking in terms of the class action law suit. I am in Los Angeles. 8/1/2021 07:07:58 pm
I am in California. I have spoken with before over the phone quite some time ago.
Casaundra Rose Lane
8/24/2021 08:17:15 pm
Yes mama [email protected] a judge 800 miles from where my son and i live romoved my nonverbal autistic 3yr with out due process ive had mulitple restraining orders against my ex amd we were never married a judge gave my son to some one a parental relationship had not been determined. During a pandemic
Anastasia Makarska
9/10/2022 06:53:56 am
There is one already. Email to [email protected] if you want details. I'll share.
Tracy
10/27/2022 08:11:56 pm
Hi
Nikki Lewis
2/27/2024 10:01:16 am
I am from California and dealing with this right here! I am very interested
Nicole Lewis
3/27/2024 10:51:37 am
I am just now reading all of this, and I am in California and experiencing the same legal corruption as well over an ex who falsified documents to have my child removed. I feel I have a good case. I have a daughter asking continuously to be with me and courts keep playing games with us which is only causing even further damage. I have an attorney who is not fighting for our protection and I am at a loss.
Christine Dao Ilovan
5/26/2024 07:25:55 am
I want to file a class action and need help filing a harassment suit against my ex who took my daughter from me despite zero abuse, neglect, or even accusations of drugs/alcohol.
Tracy
10/27/2022 08:14:43 pm
Hello
Aletha Cassity
7/13/2022 05:20:20 am
I am going through the same thing right now. I want to fight back as I feel like a sitting duck waiting for my ex’s next sucker punch or gut punch.
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Brandie Rolark
7/27/2024 05:45:48 am
I am currently going through this. I have formed with a group of others and we would like to unite for a class action with you. Please let me know as we have all gathered and carefully documented the corruption to expose, get justice and save our children as a whole. Thanks
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Jessie burden
7/11/2020 05:08:49 pm
I was done almost the same way. The GAI was the first lawyer I told my story to an tryed to hire. Then the lawyer I hired is our city JUDGE as well, my Can lawyer is the State JUDGE as well. So there was a lot of Corruption. They lied to get my case sent to Colorado by saying my Child was born there!! She was born in Georgia an the first transcript tells that an Judge says he's keeping case here. But when we didn't give up an filed an emergency hearing my Car lawyer drawer up papers pasted the Judges name on it an my X got our child without Emergency hearing ordered by phycligoest. I need to go to FBI as well No one will stand up to the Good Ole Boy Judges/ System . God bless an thanks #justice4braylie on F.b
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Tina Ingram
7/25/2020 07:37:55 pm
I had very similar experiences in Ohio. I finally found a good attorney, Thank God. My ex had over 20 domestic violence convictions and several drug convictions all of which included prison time, a few of which were during our court battles. I was always painted as the bad guy by the court despite my daughter begging for protection from him. Her story never changed. We finally won after her suffering almost 9 years of court ordered abuse. In my opinion, the court and gal are worse than he is.
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Lindsay
7/26/2020 05:34:29 am
I am in Ohio too. I’d love to touch base and hear more about your story. I am in the midst of this mess as we speak. Any pointer or direction would be appreciated!
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Marie
7/25/2020 08:47:15 pm
Glad you're fighting, I wish I had the recourses to. Its amazing to me how little the court system cares of verbal, emotional, financial abuse,inappropriate behavior with daughters, proof of interest in teen porn on his tablet and more. I was even though of by a judge "if he was so bad, you could've just left". All he had to do was lie and get a few buddies to do the same...and Bam! mom gets hosed during the divorce...all in the name of "father's rights". Its A very broken system that's for sure.
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Josie Trapnell
7/26/2020 06:46:10 am
I too lost complete custody of my children as my ex was a family law attorney and gave false allegations with not one ounce of proof. Judges have 100 percent power and you have no way of fighting the coercion and false allegations. The system is rigged and must be changed.
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7/26/2020 10:37:27 am
I emailed The Women's Coalition 6/20/2020 and someone looked up the case to understand the court's position. Who that was, God knows.
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Terri Hinks
7/26/2020 12:38:30 pm
Any mothers in Florida experiencing this and involved with DR. DEBORAH DAY AND PHYSIOLOGICAL AFFILIATES? Please reach out to me.
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Nancy S. Erickson
6/21/2021 06:19:12 pm
I got a complaint from a Florida mom about Day a couple of years ago. I will see if the mom would like to talk with you about it. I am an attorney in NY who tries to help abused women.
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Nikki Lewis
2/27/2024 10:05:32 am
Do you know anyone in California?
Wendy I Schneider
7/27/2020 09:59:01 am
I'm so happy you're standing up against this! Very important relationships are destroyed by the short-sightedness and lack of concern over family court issues. I get that courts are overwhelmed and understaffed but there must be ways to address that besides lazy, apathetic decisions and zero reinforcement. Thank you for bringing this to the attention of so many!
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Elizabeth Parr
7/27/2020 04:28:38 pm
Thank you so much for filing and for publicizing this story. Your story is an inspiration to me. I have some idea of what you must have gone through just based on some of your words here. It brought me to tears in recognizing the familiarity of it.
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Anastasia Makarska
1/1/2021 07:57:39 pm
Same here.. I wish 2021 makes a progress in all this. Judges have to lose their immunity, and PA must be recognized and stopped not just by professionals but by friends and family
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Anastasia Makarska
9/10/2022 06:59:35 am
Parental alienation (PA) is real but so is ABUSE OF MOTHERS by abusive fathers. It is sad that if a father claims PA, a female victim of abuse is not believed the abuse then. It's terrible. Just like in rape cases, and DV (how many victims of rape are male vs female? How many people are in DV shelters male vs female?) , the same percentage of abusive male are in family courts as well, extorting 100% of child custody. Similar percentage of female vs male victims are victims of legal, financial, and administrative abuse. Taking away a mother's child and placing her in the hands of an abuser is worse that all forms of abuse combined. 6/29/2023 06:12:29 am
Anastasia: I write about PA in my new book. Sadly, it happens with far greater frequency than people realize, and it has been more painful to me than childbirth! It is emotional and psychological abuse of both the affected child(ren) and the victimized and alienated parent. Lawyers seem ill-equipped to address it too.
Stephanie Weaver
7/29/2020 01:32:19 am
My ex has failed three drug test in the process of filing an emergency hearing based on abuse towards our son. The judge and the GAL have sided with him and given him 50/50 custody all while on drugs and abusing our son and verbally abusing me at drop off, through emails and etc. The GAL inserts too much of her personal beliefs rather than the facts. She refuses to investigate the case and believe anything my son has told her about seeing the drugs as well as the abuse. She is more concerned that I have my son in a private school where he is thriving rather than what is being done to him daily by his father. The justice system is broken by corruption rather than keeping the focus on the kids.
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Amanda Marble
7/29/2020 07:53:24 pm
Hi,
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D. Edwards
1/1/2021 05:50:17 pm
Please contact [email protected]. We are in process to a very similar Federal suit.
Anastasia Makarska
1/1/2021 07:55:48 pm
the Mom from this article will contact you, Aneta.
Michele Sutherland
8/2/2021 05:13:35 pm
I’m in Michigan. 10 plus years in court and abuse in every way.
Tracy Ferguson
11/7/2022 12:25:45 am
What about Arizona for class action. It also happens to father's false allegations to get upper hand. Reunification therapist discharged child without one court ordered session. China doll fine for trying to bring back to court being blocked from child for no reason.
Alisha Scholl
7/31/2020 08:28:07 am
My cousin lost her apartment and was having a hard time finding another place.. she asked a friend if they would care for her kids tell she got a place.. they agreed and cared for two out of three kids.. they tried to go to court without my cousin knowing it for guardianship over two of the girls claiming that the mom had abused them.. they had no proof that anything has happened.. the judge gave them temporary guardianship to get things filed in the right court. I filed in the right court to keep the siblings together and bring them back to the family.. I have the youngest sibling and she is doing amazing in school.. the other two struggle and the oldest one was in and out of the hospital.. the children's attorney got ahold of my attorney because the oldest girl wanted to come home.. the day before I was going to pick her up from the friend, the friend put her back in the hospital.. nobody would tell us what was going on.. eventually the oldest girl made contact with me begging me to come get her and as soon as the friends found out all communication stopped..after the guardianship ended me and mom went and picked up both girls.. as we pulled up to the house the oldest girl messaged me again telling me she was going to hurt herself because she didn't want to be there anymore.. it took 8 or more officers to get the girls out of the house.. we got them home.. the friend filed for an emergency guardianship order to get the middle child back and they got it.. they came and picked the middle child back up.. the oldest girl told us about the abuse that was going on in the friends house and that the lady of the house did drugs with the kids almost every day until court started.. I took the kids to the child's justice Center and they did a report.. when we went back to court the judge ordered I return the oldest child or he was issue a bench warrant.. the friends didn't want the child back but wanted me in trouble for the investigation.. we had court in two weeks and at the court hearing they told the judge they only wanted the one kid but didn't want me to have the other.. but the judge granted me with guardianship of the oldest one and let them keep the middle one.. I am a blood relative, best suited and have 2 of the three kids.. I think the judge let this happen because the one of the friends is in the military.. the girls miss their sister and there sister misses them.. this is all so sad.. mom doesn't have the money to fight and I am appealing the judges decision.. because I am appealing they will not let us have any visits with the middle sister.. we are so sad.. even cps and detectives are saying this is all wrong..
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Jessica
8/1/2020 07:15:59 am
All of us women who have been through this type of treatment need to stand together and file suit against the system and it’s abuse and wrong doing. There needs to be a change and it needs to be NOW. Let’s be that change!!!!
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Annalye pacheco
8/7/2020 07:14:14 am
I agree with you Jessica and I stand behind you! We need some orientation on how to make this a BIG movement.
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Scared Mom
2/9/2022 09:22:06 pm
I am not sure how to reach out to people but if You are in the Miami area and have had similar situation contact me as I am in it now. my email is [email protected] We need to stop court ordered abuse and abuse of power while ruining families.
NB
8/11/2020 10:51:32 pm
I'm with you, all the way from NYC. This story hits home and I am ready to be a part of the change. Let's do it!
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Nancy Erickson
6/21/2021 06:10:15 pm
I am an attorney trying to help abused women whose children are taken by the courts and given to abusers. Please send me your contact info.
tanith pereira
12/8/2022 02:30:50 pm
i am in new york supreme court about to lose my son to my ex-boy freind who is not my sons father, do to false allegation that i hit my son on the street one night witch the police wrote a report that say the truth that it did not happen.i need help .
Rebecca Maloney
8/1/2020 11:12:08 am
I’m living the same nightmare in Massachusetts. Going on 12 years now.
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Anastasia Makarska
1/20/2022 04:54:04 pm
can you please post your site? I will visit MA soon, maybe we can connect
Barbara Kum
8/1/2020 02:56:22 pm
I also am a victim of injustice at Dupage County. How can they not follow the law of multiple forensic reports that are true of childs disclosure ignoring abuse then took her away from me given to the perpetrator. Now she is failing school and dad is alienating her from me. She is slowly growing away from me now and the court just ignores the abuse of denying my parent time. Who can I contact? My child deserves a good education and life which they took her from a private school and now she has gave up. Please refer me to someone.
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Andrea
9/12/2020 09:47:31 am
Dupage County as well. Judge Davenport gave full custody to ex
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Michelle
8/4/2020 07:05:22 am
Please tell me how to get help and people involve in the middle of this so there are not these long term effects.
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Annalye Pacheco
8/4/2020 07:25:05 pm
If anyone in Florida has had a similar problem with Judge Scott M Bernstein and GAL Rebecca Amster Cantor please reach out to me I am trying to gather a group of women who have had this issue either by the same judge or the same family court in Miami Dade County. This judge gave the GAL marching orders on what to look for and she made her report to the judges request she lied under oath and made statements for my 14 year old son that I know he did not make because the words used are not in his vocabulary. They gave no importance to my evidence and flipped everything on me. They needed to find a justification for removing physical custody from me. And said I was the alienator despite evidence of me giving the father more time sharing than he was entitled to. They have damaged this teen who is in a very important phase of his life removing him from the parent who has been most involved since his birth and removing him from his 6 and 10 year old brothers. We have started a petition to try and gain the governors attention. Your support is appreciated. Let’s not give up ladies we are women!our passion for our children will never let us give up! https://www.thepetitionsite.com/560/482/661/miami-dade-county-judge-orders-teen-to-move-to-covid-19-epicenter/
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Patricia
11/29/2021 02:51:52 pm
Have you found any solution to this? I know someone in a similar situation.
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Seyla Cortes
11/2/2022 04:45:35 pm
I need your help. This GAL is appointed to my case. And every piece of evidence I gather she ignores, and somehow, the father gets information about the confidential exchange.
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9/19/2023 04:58:41 pm
Same for me years ago. GAL took abusers side for 10 years. FOUNDED sexual abuse by father. 6 evaluations stating father was a narcissist. GAL never brought this to the judge. Tons of written stalking letters and poems by the abuser, once again never brought to the judge. Thank God DCFS believed me. Fought for 10 years 1987 to 1997. GAL threatened me for 10 years to take daughter away. Never happened. Domestic Violence attorneys worked with me for 10 years. God bless them. Abuser thought no one would stick with me for ten years. Recently found out why, and after all these years took it to States Attorney. Abuser parents were Wealthy and CLAIM TO BE CHRISTAINS, and the GAL took 10 years of money from them. NOW, NOW, I have written proof. WE are still spent from 36 years ago. But now I am going to fight for all the other Mom's out there. Hope everyone posts what state you are from and names of judge's, attorneys, and GAL, only if you feel safe doing so. This case was in cook county IL. Might take me ten years just to tell my story. God's speed to all you moms. Pray, PRAY, PRAY.
Seyla Cortes
11/2/2022 05:06:08 pm
Please reach out to me. I am in the same situation.
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Celina Harp
8/4/2020 08:44:02 pm
I recently filed a mandamus against Judge Eric Shepperd and a Writ of the Habeus all way to the Supreme Court of Texas from Travis County in Austin Texas.
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Anastasia Makarska
1/1/2021 07:58:27 pm
what is your email address? I want to connect you with Aneta.
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Christina
6/26/2023 01:00:14 pm
Hi my children and I are victims of severe parental alienation. Please connect with me.
Shay
1/2/2022 04:14:02 am
Reading this breaks my heart and bring tears to my eyes. They will not get away with what they have done to you. I pray that God Almighty destroys this unjust scandalous and tyrant system.
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Christina
6/26/2023 01:01:54 pm
Hi I love the way you talk very spiritual. Can you please say a prayer for my children and I we are victims of Severe Parental Alienation:(
Nicolette Ladoulis
8/16/2020 03:58:10 am
But Mr. Biden is running for president and VAWA has not passed the Senate, so I am sure that misuse of public funds will become a real issue, someday. De-fund family court maybe?
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Joanne Intrabartola
9/12/2020 01:13:00 pm
Still fighting since 2008 and 2 different states.
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Anastasia Makarska
1/1/2021 07:53:24 pm
please text me your email address to 3122546001. I will connect you with the mom from this article.
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Drew
12/31/2020 10:53:37 pm
This exactly is what us dads have been saying for years. Sadly we’ve tried the 1983 before. Some fools still think it’ll work. But the feds already have a method for kicking it out. Plus the judge will claim immunity. But 18 USC 241 looks promising. And they might be able to sue for theft, exploitation, larceny, fraud, Abuse or oppression in office, and other crimes...depending on their state laws.
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Anastasia Makarska
1/1/2021 07:52:03 pm
So true.
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8/2/2023 06:18:18 am
Hi Drew. I just saw your post about filing in Federal Court using 18 USC 241.
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Anastasia Makarska
1/1/2021 07:59:42 pm
We are collecting cases for a class action lawsuit. I have a name of the attorney and his form for you to fill out. Please text me your email address to 3122546001 and I will email you the form.
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Kerri
8/17/2021 12:12:04 pm
Please contact for CALS. I’m in Georgia
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Nadeije Ahearn
8/6/2022 12:09:05 pm
Connecticut custody and corruption issue going strong for nearly 6 years with no end in sight…DCF, law enforcement and even medical providers have literally covered up the ongoing abuse by the childrens father which despite the endless trail of evidence I have proving truths, has resulted in a failed system of cowards who only seem to cover their assess when they make mistakes that rip families apart which they then try to co ER up to avoid being sued once they realize their negligence and need to avoid criminal charges and imprisonment for the blatant failure to do their legally obligated job!!!!
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Tya Simmons
6/9/2021 01:34:47 am
Your story sounds a lot like mine except I wasn’t with no attorney... I would like to become a member of your awareness group for families affected by the system... I’m in Florida if that matters...
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8/12/2021 08:34:45 am
After Reporting Sexual Abuse, Popular Podcaster Juliet Ramos of BrokenGirl Unchained Podcast Fights for Families that are being Abused by our Family Courts, After Losing Custody Battle by a Flawed System.
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Stephanie
9/7/2021 12:53:08 am
I would love to talk with you about what the commissioner, GAL, and CPS social workers have done to my daughter, and me. It began in 2010, finalized in 2013, but ruined my credibility, calling me a liar, so changing venues, the court (the GAL I just mentioned) followed what the commissioner and CPS said in the previous county. It was not even that she believed them, she knew as well, that my daughter was being abused, but withheld proof from the court and blatantly lied. She recommended I be supervised for five years, after claiming I am a good mom and she has no concerns. The judge kicked her off our case, so I would think her report would have been void, but no. I have been unable to protect my daughter since because of what my parenting plan looks like - claiming false allegations, and commissioner said if I report to CPS I would never see my daughter again, and the next judge, at the recommendation of the GAL, said if I have unfounded reports, I will be supervised. So I have not been able to do anything! My daughter is self-harming and so much more. Her dad and his girlfriend since 2010, have alienated me for years, and now have withheld her since Mother's Day of this year. I am currently waiting on the Ombudsman's determination and finishing my necessary documents for contempt and a modification but I am so scared. I am so sorry you and so many others have experienced this as well. I cannot even describe the pain and helplessness. It is sickening.
Jessica Clark
3/25/2022 02:24:18 pm
I have a story with evidence
Ann Darsky
6/23/2021 04:41:31 am
Does anybody know how this story has transpired?
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Danielle paine
7/31/2021 12:50:24 pm
Please add me to the list. It’s nice to see we are all not alone!!!! My case has been going since 2018.
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Christina
6/26/2023 01:05:10 pm
Hi I am also an alienated mom since I am since October 2019
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HiddenName
7/31/2021 04:34:51 pm
The Judge granted my abusive ex a temporary restraining order. I left, my ex did what he threatened he involved lawyers knowing I couldn't afford one. He kept me prisoner, yes literally, for over two years. While he was able to call on people who lied for him the Judge dismissed my witnesses and all of my evidence including police reports. I may have primary custody but my ex is currently attempting to get sole custody and I am pro se. He wouldn't even look at the terrible texts my ex is still sending me. Another court hearing won't be until at least 4 months from now. Our child is very young. I have witnesses to testify that he never cared for her and that his abuse was malicious... But the Judge won't hear it...
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Christina
6/26/2023 01:07:29 pm
Same here the stupid judge doesn't want to hear it! He left my kids with the abuser! I am suffering from heart broken syndrome and trauma.
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Danielle
8/1/2021 12:22:35 am
I also in California experience this as well. My son is so angry with lies. I also want to sue. Who is the attorney? I’ve been ready for a long time
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8/1/2021 07:30:01 pm
Hi Danielle,
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Tracy
10/27/2022 08:28:30 pm
Hello
Lisa A
8/1/2021 05:10:29 am
I am in palm beach county, FL. My ex is a physician. He mentally and emotionally abused me for 15 years. I left with my 4 year old daughter and it was hell. In and out of court. False allegations of me beating our daughter, me being a drug addict. Fast forward, he attacks his wife while he’s high on cocaine. It’s recorded on the bay monitor. DCF gets involved. His baby daughter and wife get an automatic restraining order, but my daughter does not, even though she was also in the house during the attack. DCF puts the wife and I along with the children on a safety plan and I have to live with her for maybe 4 months. I have a GAL who is nice, we go through 4 different case managers, and he has supervised visits with DCF over the phone with my daughter. After a few months she doesn’t want to talk to him anymore. He claims parental alienation and the GAL attorney gets involved. Says that I need a psych evaluation and that I’m the problem. Meanwhile, she has testimony from not just me, but the third wife he attacked and the wife before me! Yet I’m still the problem! The courts granted an emergency second hearing to stop all visitation with him. But the GAL attorney is relentless. My daughter tells her therapist he sexually abused her. And they claim I coached her! After all this, I hear nothing about the investigation into that, DCF drops us. And I’m $30,000 I’m attorneys fees foe the year fighting this! He hasn’t paid her child support off and on. Didn’t pay her school tuition for 2 years. And now has been attacked another girlfriend on a JetBlue flight and was arrested in Boston. Now on a now fly list. Yet he’s still seeing patients. He’s been evicted twice in 2 years foe not paying rent. Stole $38k from friends of his and even though court ordered to pay it back, he won’t. Yet I’m the problem. Right? He has his felony criminal trial coming up in September, and I’ll bet he will walk away Free, and then start petitioning the courts for my daughter back. Courts don’t care. He’s a cocaine addict, alcoholic. Wife beater, pathological liar. Sexually abused my daughter, but watch him get away with it like he always does.
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Christina
6/26/2023 01:10:30 pm
Hello my ex has gave me hell too and I have a feeling he molested our daughter! Been alienated since October 2019! I feel so alone!
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Angela
8/1/2021 07:12:54 am
Hi,
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anonymous
8/1/2021 07:14:51 am
Colorado Douglas county- GAL was aware of DV in the home. PRE recommended children be placed with mother due to the fathers severe case of alienation. DHS aware of DV in the home.
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Monique Salcido Hamilton
8/1/2021 07:37:39 am
Started divorce and custody in 2014 and this is the third time Motioning the court for full custody, emergency custody, sole legal decision making custody, the list goes on. I have been abandoned forced to flip and sell our homes and then pay for husbands attorney fees out of my portion of the proceeds. Left for a year without the funds from the division of assets in order to force homeowners to gain custody of our daughter. The nightmare has not ended! Currently in family court in Arizona and the Judge has allowed the Father to interfere with custody and kidnap my daughter for over 6 months, building false narratives that my daughter is afraid of me. Father filed claims against me in 3 states at 1 time. Filed a protection order against me in Texas, called Arizona and claimed child abuse with CPS, filed for Emergency Custody and called Hawaii and started a child support review with the county attorney. This has been going on since I drove my daughter to El Paso in February. School is about tk begin and the Judge has allowed Father to return her after he is able to make work and flight arrangements. This has been typical of this 7 year fiasco.
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Bonnie
8/1/2021 11:22:09 am
I am looking for a probono attorney to help me with the same. Sad this is happening to do many.
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Melynda Bosch
8/1/2021 07:13:50 pm
I am located in Florida and looking for any assistance with connecting to this lawsuit. Will gladly discuss my case one on one, afraid of this public comment
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Melynda Bosch
8/3/2021 08:21:09 am
My ex-husband was not a lawyer but he is a veteran and uses that as leverage and to get sympathy. I am feeling exhausted but will eventually get my full story down on table.
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Stacy Whyde
8/1/2021 09:21:44 pm
I am going through the exact same thing here in Indiana
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Bailee
8/2/2021 05:59:31 am
Hey I’m so sorry this is happening to you guys. Here’s my story … I moved to Ohio June 2019 with my daughter. I drove her once a month to see her narcissist sociopath father. After COVID-19 happened travel restrictions were put in place . I was on bed rest pregnant with my son. My ex refused to come visit her. I couldn’t drive . He filed criminal charges against me . I ended up having my son 5 wks early. So I still couldn’t travel. Mind you he got a deviation in child support for travel expenses but never traveled to see our child. Fast forward to October 2020 we go to court the judge hears our case. My ex painted me into this horrible person lies with zero evidence against me the judge keeps us there all day long. Then comes back in and says one of the weekends I was fully capable of bring my daughter to see him. That doctors notes weren’t enough. He’s says I willfully withheld my daughter from my ex. Sentenced me 48 hrs in jail. I have zero criminal records. Just had a baby. No where is the parenting plan did it ever say I’m ex was suppose to have the weekend I went to jail. We’ve dealt with all this abuse for seven years and it still continues.
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10/29/2021 05:06:39 pm
"Sentenced me 48 hrs in jail"
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Anastasia Makarska
10/29/2021 05:13:49 pm
my friend Olga Mazzone was in jail 4 times. She DEFINITELY wants to be included in the class auction lawsuit. Her email address is [email protected]
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Noreen
8/3/2021 07:43:03 am
I haven't seen my daughters in 81 days my ex filed an emergency hearing May 7, 2021 in retaliation of my protective order filed April 26, 2021 and my change of judge that was coming I filed a protective order against the judge He never heard my protective order he transferred it (he would have denied it anyway and yell at me as he has) However I dont have a hearing until September 8, 2021 I filed all of the codes sited all kinds of cases Judge mad at me because he knows he messed up all kinds of stuff in my case since 2015 I have transcripts there was no emergency Jude has failed to protect me and my kids My home burned down with me in it My ex went to court and said I asked him and he had video 2019 He never has proof just his word judge charged me 30,000 in attorney fees to my ex for my outrageous behavior for going to a woman shelter for 3 months Which I was told to do by DCS courts
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10/29/2021 05:05:21 pm
"in retaliation of my protective order"
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Anastasia Makarska
10/29/2021 05:09:52 pm
same here 10/29/2021 07:40:26 pm
In 2016 when I discovered I could file "FRAUD UPON THE COURT" by officers of the court, attorneys, judicial officers, and court clerks, in any court/jurisdiction, while requesting restraining orders in the Domestic Violence Court in a different county because of ongoing DV, I did just exactly that. I had fled to Sacramento from Bakersfield. I provided all the facts and names of the officers of the court that concealed and omitted facts that the abuser filed a case before me which all his orders were denied, there was no emergency, was to serve me, and to return back to hear his cause. Never served me nor notified me. Instead, he and his father from Arizona robbed me with the assistance of the Kern County Sheriff Officers who handcuffed me, again, on September 19, 2012. The Domestic Violence Court GRANTED me my first and only restraining orders based on the documents and facts I filed.
Noreen
8/3/2021 08:00:43 am
Universal Citation: IN Code § 31-17-4-2 (2017)
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noreen
8/3/2021 08:18:11 am
Can a class-action be brought from different states to federal
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Kerri
8/17/2021 12:22:21 pm
I’m working on this right now… I’ll keep you posted.
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Anastasia Makarska
10/29/2021 05:10:32 pm
any update on this?
Sara
8/3/2021 12:38:42 pm
I totally feel exactly what you are going through. It's just mind blown. Ive been going through it for 5 years, and still going on, and not a damn thing I can do.
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Ann Darsky
8/4/2021 04:59:50 pm
Nancy,
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Nancy Erickson
8/4/2021 05:36:31 pm
To Ann Darsky -- no, Ann, I don't live in CA. I live in NYC.
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Steph
9/7/2021 01:11:58 am
Is there anyone else in WA state dealing with this?
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10/2/2021 12:59:03 pm
Download Aneta’s federal filings here https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2021/06/26/il-mom-sues-judge-ex-gal-for-8m-the-complaints/
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Sandra
10/24/2021 12:47:59 pm
I am in Madison county Illinois. My son refused to see his father after receiving a concussion, being called names such as retarded and a bully, being pushed down, etc. my ex husband has been claiming alienation since around 2016 and no judge would change the visitation schedule until this year when a new judge took over who just so happens to live four house down from my ex husband. The GAL has only spoke to me once and my son once. The judge gave my ex full custody to which my son refused to leave the courtroom so his father signed for him to be placed in a foster mothers house in East St. Louis. He was only eating once per day, not attending school, and didn’t change his clothes for 6 days because he had none. They finally bullied my son into going to his fathers by threatening to take the only items he did possess in this foster house. My son has went from being an honor student to failing classes. He wears the same 5 outfits every week. Him and his brother are only allowed to see me one hour per week supervised. No matter what i file it is denied. Our boys keep asking for me and to go home and nobody will listen. The judges family lives in about 6 of the houses on my ex husbands street and nobody thinks this is reason for removal. This is a nightmare. This neglect of power needs to stop it is hurting our children!
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Amy Finazzo
1/27/2022 07:46:47 pm
I live in Madison County too! Feel free to reach out to me. [email protected]
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Liza Black
10/26/2021 11:19:22 am
I too am living this nightmare. I left my abusive ex in 2014. Got a restraining order and full custody. From 2014-17, he alienated them from me. In 2017, through an ex parte, he had them instantly taken from me and I saw them 2 hours a week. He sued for child support although he makes $150k a year. I was a stay at home mom for 12 years, working 5 part time jobs in 2017 as a renter, but the judge ordered me to pay him half my gross wages. I'm still paying that today. The judge told me to get rid of my home and the kids' things, as I would "never have overnights with them again."
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10/26/2021 12:09:11 pm
100% my story except that my initial custody was close to 50/50. Then it went to 0/100 and your story repeated as a cookie-cutter. Even the year is the same when it happened to me: 2017
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10/29/2021 05:02:52 pm
Hello Anastasia, Mine was at 50/50 too when he took them from me in 2017!!! 10/29/2021 05:03:46 pm
I am in Southern California if anyone wants to reach out or be part of our lawsuit.
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Liza Black
10/28/2021 12:35:05 pm
Hello everyone,
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10/29/2021 04:59:40 pm
I am very interested in participating with the class action lawsuit. Please email me where we may be able to meet.
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Anastasia Makarska
10/29/2021 05:02:16 pm
I am very interested too.I can also connect you with several more people from Illinois who would be interested in joining the class auction. My number is 3122546001 Please let me know how we could join the class auction.
Anastasia Makarska
10/29/2021 05:11:46 pm
my email [email protected] in case a class auction person in charge would want to email
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Kristin Jones
1/2/2022 07:17:41 am
Ohio Family courts have failed me also! Praying for a change!!!
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Nancy S. Erickson
1/2/2022 08:19:43 am
I unsubscribed by mistake! Please put me back on!
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Liza Black
1/2/2022 10:44:52 am
I am now part of two lawsuits like this one. Please reach out to me: [email protected]
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Nancy S. Erickson
1/2/2022 10:59:44 am
I unsubscribed by mistake again.
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AC Robertson
9/10/2022 02:00:45 am
Are you the attorney trying to help? Our case is in Wa St..
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1/20/2022 04:24:14 pm
Is anyone spearheading class action efforts in IL? I am interested in joining forces, both personally and professionally.
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Meghan Garnhart
1/20/2022 05:06:26 pm
Yes there are. Please text me at (815) 218-2079 and I can connect you to more in IL
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Amy Finazzo
1/27/2022 08:02:05 pm
Im in Madison County IL and have had 5 lawyers in 5 years. Two for family court, two for criminal due to this mess, and 1 GAL. Please help me. Ex family attorney was also a FOIA city official and her husband a police officer in same city. I want to be apart of this
Misti
8/30/2024 05:31:28 am
I would be interested in this in IL as well.
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Hello, first off. So sorry to hear this happened to you. Secondly bravo for standing up for yourself. I have a very similar case in S. Cal. The opposing party has claimed parental alienation and coaching. He retained counsel after he was served with allegations of sexual abuse that our daughter reported in a forensic interview. Now he’s fighting for 100% custody reversal. I need help or guidance. I do not want to disclose too much. Seeking help I’m at the tail end of my case.
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Aneta
1/30/2022 08:38:31 pm
S.Z.
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S.Z.
1/31/2022 12:09:18 am
Hello, how can I call or email you? There is no phone number listed? 5/6/2022 05:01:58 pm
https://youtu.be/wbV0nm_RaKc you GOTTA watch these 15 in its entirety. This Mom was discriminated against - with recording of the court hearing AND the truth that child recorded. Please post your comment in that link, AND repost it - share, share, share.
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7/5/2022 12:04:56 pm
Especially a win in her suit, will help her case moving forward and help expose the injustices women everywhere are being subjected to. I’m so thankful for your helpful post!
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7/5/2022 01:52:47 pm
World in which Family Court judges disregard substantial negative evidence about the father, and fabricate negative evidence about the mother, Thank you for making this such an awesome post!
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Nickola Cunha
7/24/2022 07:53:11 pm
I am an attorney from the state of Connecticut who was disbarred this past January. The disbarment flowed from a hearing that was supposed to be about recusing a trial judge who was engaging in everything under the sun that all of the moms have experienced based on the posts I have been reading. I am very interested in learning more about any pending federal cases against judges. I’m still fighting for my license to be reinstated.
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NADEIJE AHEARN
10/8/2023 01:55:10 am
I AM ALSO IN CT & INTERESTED IN LEARNING MORE ABOUT YOUR STORY. PLEASE CONTACT ME IF INTERESTED IN JOINING FORCED AT [email protected] OR MY CELL: (860) 961-8153.
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Lisa
7/30/2022 01:54:32 pm
The same happened to me in Mississippi! It's worse then I ever would have thought of & now I'm scared because I don't trust anyone in the judicial system. AG office or attorneys here becuase they all know each other & my ex family. I feel like I've been raped in the middle of the court house square & nobody said one word but let it happen.....
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AC Robertson
9/10/2022 01:58:26 am
GAL refusing to look at 7+ years actual evidence of abuse, neglect, alienation, and spoucification of a child. Commissioner ordering children back to covert narcissist father. Teenage son sexually assaulted little sister and father kept it a secret from me and forced our daughter to have to live with her abuser for years. Child refusing to move back to the house where the sexual assault happened, or with the man who made her keep the assault a secret. GAL, Ex, his atty all committing countless false statements and filing false instrument. Constant lies from them under penalty of purgery. My atty dropped me when he realized how bad it is and didn't know how to fight it. I need help! My child is suicidal because of her father is ignoring her wishes to live with me. None of these people care that they're pushing my child to want to harm herself and they keep making up lies about me when I'm the parent who has acted in my children's best interest the entire time and I'm the parent who has been capable of helping my child make progress in therapy. I need help! Our case is in Wa St. though I live in Id.
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9/12/2022 02:12:09 am
Please file sexual assault reports of a minor child, your daughter, with the police, the sheriff, and the FBI because sexual assault of a child is a “federal offense” and every law enforcement agency are MANDATED REPORTERS. Should any law enforcement agency fail or refuse to make, file, and provide you with a copy of that report, please email the United States Assistant Attorney General, Vanita Gupta at: [email protected], and Amy Loder at: [email protected],. Please know and understand that every state’s law receives federal funding to report, prevent, and to hold sexual assault offenders/perpetrators accountable.
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Anastasia Makarska
9/10/2022 07:02:17 am
False allegations by a male against a female should be illegal and punishable by jail time like in Brazil. Family courts should not attempt to treat both genders "equally". Because it male and female were equal physically, then there would be the same number of male rape victims, as there are female ones
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BJ Brown
10/8/2022 08:09:15 am
My case involved a GAL with behavior so egregious she had our emotional support dog stolen from our home. We were awarded the dog back in court. The judge let her have it. However, attorneys will not get involved in these types of cases. They claim it is useless to go against the system and immunity. The GAL even had a bar complaint, she was having an affair with a judge. The judge recused himself from the case.
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10/30/2022 07:28:41 pm
Hello, My daughter is going through the same thing after reporting her daughter's sexual abuse, the abusive father teamed up with the GAL and they switched custody after she had been with the mom all of her life.. no court order changed until this discovery she was 10 years old
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naomi
12/11/2022 09:28:24 pm
This is so sad , i am so glad that you are trying to help all these woman . the system is so broken . PLEASE HELP
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Amy Pearl
12/11/2022 09:50:37 pm
I would just like to say that the work you are doing is amazing shedding light on this injustice in the world to help to try and change the system that is wronging so many innocent people
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Kimberly Pearson
1/29/2023 10:06:27 pm
Hello,
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1/30/2023 03:44:17 pm
Can you please let me know what city, county, and state all of this is occurring?
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Kimberly Pearson
1/30/2023 08:11:52 pm
Wilkes barre, Pennsylvania luzerne county 1/30/2023 08:31:14 pm
Do you mind if I provide your information to the DOJ’s Office of Violence Against Women which provides federal funding to ALL courts in every state to request and demand the United States Attorney General investigate pedophile sexual assault against the alleged perpetrator, the father? ALL pedophiles are to be held accountable for which the DOJ provides federal funding throughout every state, no parent is above the law, nor are judicial court officers and officers of the court. You can reach me at, [email protected], whenever you feel the need. Thank you for providing me with your information. Please take care of yourselves. Malvina
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Kimberly Pearson
1/31/2023 05:46:25 am
No I do not mind at all. We could use all the help we can get. I fear they're trying to fabricate lies to eventually move to remove him from my home. I have spoken to other families that have dealt with this judge and this particular social worker. They have had their children taken away and some with rights terminated for being a protective parent.
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Christina Leon
6/26/2023 01:19:21 pm
Victim of severe parental alienation
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6/29/2023 06:07:56 am
Christina: I feel your pain and I know how damaging parental alienation is to a mother's relationship with her children. I also see that there are so many women on this site who have experienced inequitable treatment in divorce court due to crooked lawyers, judges and other actors. I thought I was alone in that boat - but I now see that I am not! I had been feeling so helpless and trapped in my own divorce that I wrote a book about it. I wanted to create greater awareness about the ways in which women are victimized in divorce court. Sadly, I am new to social media. I always avoided it, so I know nothing about how to amplify my message or create awareness about my book. If you or anyone else can do so - it would be very much appreciated. The book is a quick and easy ready but offers a searing and precise examination of how gender inequity plays out in divorce for women - particularly those with fewer connections and resources that their husbands - as is often the case when a woman divorces a lawyer or other well-connected/well-financed man. Here is succinct summary of my book:
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Careyann
8/13/2023 02:33:30 pm
Wow I feel like I was reading my story. It’s insane what is being done to women in this country. I currently see my kids every other weekend - judge took them from me and put them with my abusive drug addict alcoholic ex who plead guilty to domestic violence two months prior. She’s now a partner at his lawyers firm. It’s been over a year now. I’m on my third judge.
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Alexandria Gillespie
8/28/2023 06:35:08 am
I need your help
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Barbara Cutler
10/22/2023 10:08:52 am
My family law case has morphed to a probate case because I have a daughter with a disability. Although I had been the sole caretaker for both of my girls since my ex and I divorced in 1998, my ex petitioned to be appointed my disabled daughters guardian when she was age 23. She had exceeded all expectations and graduating from a program on the East Coast where she leaned to be self determined. My ex wanted to warehouse her to live in MA for the rest of her life to control tens of millions of dollars my children were entitled to pursuant to our divorce decree. My daughter was appointed a guardian when she was out of state at school behind her back. I have been ordered to pay the court tens of thousands of dollars in fees for court appointed GAL, attorney fees and guarduan fees, although my daughter lives with me. My daughter has been subject to abuse isolation and intimidation since. I am being taxed for having an adult daughter with a disability and will be until this case bankrupts me. The guardian does nothing but control her medications, medical care,including birth control. He is a man who is a total stranger old enough to be her grandfather. He will not let her pursue her transition plan, choose where she wants to live, or who she will live with. The court will not let me receive the guardians reports filed with the court. This matter was. Instigated by my daughters father, but perpetuated by multiple other entities, attorneys, individuals, including the Disability Rights Center of Kansas, whose director told me the judge made it ‘crystal clear’ that they could NEVER help us in this case. On top of all this my ex, a very wealthy international entrepreneur became a police officer (at age 62) the very same year he filed this petition. Since then police reports I have filed have been altered and anything I file now is written off as a “mental health issue” although I have never been diagnosed as having a mental health issue. This is false. The court records are colored. My daughter and family is being destroyed. My daughter is being robbed of her life and her money. She has been under this guardianship most of her 20’s. She will be 30 next year.
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Felicia
6/5/2024 02:33:17 pm
I am just starting to make a mense with my 4 kids, now all over the age of 18, I suffered in San Diego’s Family Court system. I’m with you, I’ve suffered, they suffered, they have all ceased any communication with their father, and now 12 years late, finding their way home, it’s a hard vacant hole, and we will never heal, but we are trying to find peace
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AuthorCindy Dumas, M.A. has been researching, writing, and raising awareness about the Custody Crisis since 2003, when she was unable to protect her children from their abusive father. She fled into hiding when Family Court failed her and was tricked into returning home, when her children were given to their abusive father. Archives
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