"I hope our paths meet again in this journey we call 'life'...If we don't meet, I love you, always have, always will.”
Coral to daughter Rebekah
Coral is wishing her daughter a Happy 30th Birthday to her daughter the only way she can—on social media.
Family Court gave sole custody of Rebekah, along with her 7 other children, including a nursing infant, to their father and allowed him to completely alienate all 8 of them from her.
Coral’s case is a good example of how judges routinely allow men to alienate children from a good, protective mother. Women are rarely allowed to alienate children from a good, protective father, while often being falsely accused of alienating to justify switching custody to an abusive father.
EXCERPTS from birthday post [linked below]:
I will never forget your screams of terror as you, your sister, Hannah and baby Zachary were ripped away from me on March 10, 1996. My journey has been very difficult since that day.
...I reported the crimes that had been committed against you and your sister and me to an attorney and the Polk County Sheriff's Office, Dallas, Oregon. The crimes are documented and the perpetrators admitted to the crimes but there was no justice.
You were RIPPED AWAY FROM ME and put in the care of the perpetrators…I, your protective mother who reported the crimes as is required by law, was not allowed to see you, talk to you, write you letters or send you gifts...
...I wrote my memoir for you and your brothers and sisters and to encourage all protective mothers around the globe who have also lost their children while seeking safety and a divorce.
I wrote my memoir hoping that my children would remember the loving times in our lives and learn the truth of my own plight and horrors that occurred within our family at the hands of your father and others who perpetrated abuse in our home.
I hoped that one of you would read it, seek counseling and become aware of the horror that our family has endured.
I dedicated my memoir to my children and to my grandchildren in the hope that they may learn the truth about me. I hope meet my grandchildren before I pass away.
“HAPPY 30TH BIRTHDAY TO MY DAUGHTER”
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After my 4yr old boy disclosed penetrative sexual abuse IN A FORENSIC INTERVIEW, a crooked cop who hadn't even seen the interview lied on the stand saying I coached him.
I lost custody and have to pay $90 per 2 hour visit 3 times a week for the highest level of supervised visitation.
I've also had to pay for a costly psych eval of myself even though we already had a full custody exam which revealed my psych tests were 100% normal and father's were all "invalid".
I've been besieged for 3.5 years since I escaped my abusive marriage.
Recently my ex illegally discontinued visits and I had NO CONTACT, not even by phone with my baby for two months.
Everyday is pain without my child and worrying about his safety.
FROM: "Faces of the Crisis" a Women's Coalition Exhibit
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"Ms. Zubko-Valva provided the defendants with overwhelming, irrefutable evidence of the graphic, horrific abuse, including documentary proof, audio recordings and transcriptions, photographs and medical reports."
From lawsuit filed by Justyna, Tommy's mother
Little Tommy’s mother, Justyna, filed a $200M lawsuit this week against the Family Court judge and other officials involved in her custody case, 5 months after his death at the hands of his father.
Tommy’s father was enabled by three Family Court judges to severely abuse him for many years, despite Justyna fighting hard for his protection and submitting substantial evidence of physical, sexual and emotional abuse. But, as usual in contested custody cases, the judges deemed his mother a liar and restricted her to supervised visitation, giving the father complete power and control to use and abuse his son at will.
Unfortunately, the media is failing to put Little Tommy’s death into the context of systemic sexism operating in family courts, and some outlets are spreading false narratives, which harm the movement. It is important to ask MSM to print the truth about Tommy and the Custody Crisis [see below].
One local New York outlet, Newsday, quotes the mother’s attorney, saying the judge “failed to review evidence” and that the father was given custody because he was a police officer. In fact, there were three judges who DISREGARDED substantial evidence in Tommy’s case, not “failed to review it”. This is an important distinction in getting to the crux of the matter: Family court judges are not just negligent or untrained, they are deliberately ignoring damaging evidence about fathers and fabricating damaging evidence about mothers to justify switching custody to the father.
And Tommy's father may have been a police officer, but this is an exception to the rule of most fathers getting custody regardless of occupation. Reporting only that position misleads the public into thinking it is rare for abusive fathers to be given custody.
Research shows that judges are switching custody from primary nurturing mothers to fathers in approximately 82% of cases, with 70% involving abusive fathers; and that women have never had the power to keep custody after divorce, thanks to discriminatory systems men put in place as soon as women gained the power to live independently of them.
Research also confirms it is in children’s best interest to live primarily with their primary attachment figure after divorce (and visit the other parent regularly), especially when the parents do not get along; and, of course, to restrict visitation with abusive parents.
This research and the fact that THREE judges in this one case, and thousands of other judges around the world are empowering fathers at the expense of women and children, support that it is entrenched, systemic male entitlement causing women to lose custody. The incredible devastation caused to millions of women’s and children’s lives around the world is incalculable.
As a result of this case, legislation for cameras in the courtroom and on court-affiliated officials are being promoted as a solution. It is unclear this solution is being proposed when judges ignored “mountains of evidence and can simply ignore video evidence as well.
The problem, said best by law professor Wendy Murphy, is “Family Court judges can do whatever the hell they want.” And what they want, in way too many cases, it to entitle and empower fathers, regardless of the harm it causes women and children.
What is needed is not band-aid reforms like cameras, more training or more child abuse laws, but profound structural change: a new system that removes custody cases from Family Court.
Want to help get the truth out?
ASK THE MEDIA to report on the real cause of Tommy’s death: the Custody Crisis.
[You can refer them to The Women’s Coalition for more information and interviews with a link to this post.]
Nicole Fuller: email@example.com
[If you know of any other reporters who may report on the crisis, please have them contact TWC and link them to this post or on FB: ]
NOTE: If anyone knows how to contact with Justyna, please tell her the real reason she lost custody was systemic sexism, not negligence or lack of video evidence, and have her contact TWC for more info and support from women from around the world.
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Thomas Valva's mother files $200 million lawsuit in 8-year-old's death
“People in the system failed her and us. Her death was preventable…Red flags and warning signs were ignored.” Jennifer, Keira’s Mom
Although the investigation is ongoing, Jennifer is sure that her her ex murdered Little Keira and took his own life by jumping off a steep cliff with her.
Despite Jennifer’s attempts over the years to protect Little Keira in Family Court, the systemic agenda to entitle the father, as usual, prevailed over the law: the best interests of the child. The judge allowed regular, unsupervised, overnight visitation with the abusive father.
Hence, the judge entitled the father to murder his child.
In one abusive incident, the father had shoved a rat into Keira’s mouth. Another time he kidnapped Keira and said he wouldn’t return her unless he got equal parenting time. And there was much verbal and emotional abuse.
Jennifer appealed the judge’s ruling permitting unsupervised, overnight visits, but lost. Appellate Courts almost always defer to the discretion afforded Family Court judges.
Unfortunately, Jennifer thinks the problem is that judges and custody evaluators need more training in domestic violence, and that since the abuse was emotional, it wasn’t taken seriously. So that is what the media reported along with the fact that this is a "custody battle" implying blame is more or less equal between parents.
The truth is that even if the court officials had training in domestic violence and Keira had been physically or sexually abused, she would not have been protected, because the core cause of the custody crisis is systemic male entitlement. No matter the particulars of each individual custody crisis case, most end the same, with the father getting what he wants, be it equal time or sole custody.
The only thing that will stop judges from taking and endangering our children is to end the systematic and methodical entitling and empowering of fathers, and for this we need to educate the public about the true cause of the crisis and unite to demand a new system.
If you'd like to join your local coalition and engage in activism to help end the crisis, email: email@example.com
For more information on why the Custody Crisis is occurring:
Girl found dead at bottom of Ontario cliff was murdered, family says
Family struggling to make sense of four-year-old girl’s sudden death
NOTE: For mothers who think that not having money for a good lawyer: Jennifer is a doctor and had great representation and even some good court officials reporting the father's abuse. Bottom line: it does not matter how much money you have, the agenda prevails.
[Pictured: Jennifer and Little Keira]
Link to post on Facebook: https://bit.ly/2LaITty
In a new Guardian article that attempts to shine light on the custody crisis, reporter Sonia Sodha exposes a couple of “dangerous” family court fallacies, while unwittingly propagating other false narratives that are much more harmful. It’s important to recognize these, so women can begin to educate each other, the public and the media about what is really going on in family courts around the world.
Sodha exposes the “dangerous fallacy” propagated by fathers’ rights activists (FRA’s) that family courts are biased against men. However, Sodha misses the FRA variation that claims the family court crisis is gender neutral—caused by generic corruption—that harms both men and women. This is much more damaging than the older, biased-against-fathers fallacy, because it confuses, diverts and divides women. This renders women incapable of uniting as a class to fight the crisis—which is the only way to end it.
And that is why these covert FRA’s spend so much time and resources creating and infiltrating family court and social services reform groups, alienation and child abuse prevention groups, as well as parent, children and grandparent rights groups. Beware of all of these groups!
The other fallacy Sodha exposes is that this biased-against-men narrative is based on men not automatically getting equal parenting time, which they claim is their “right” and which, not coincidentally, reduces their child support. But this is not just a FRA fallacy. It is law in many places and is a direct result of the Family Court agenda to entitle and empower fathers.
Sodha goes on to say, “Evidence shows that the disproportionately male judiciary is more likely to rule against abused women and children.” There are two false narratives in that one statement. First, there are plenty of female judges who discriminate against women, apparently to keep a warm seat at the old boys’ table. And the problem is not that judges are ruling against “abused women”. They are ruling against “women”, abused or not. By continuing to identify the problem as of abusers, it covers the true patriarchal nature…
Sodha inadvertently spreads another false narrative that stems from the idea that judges are just getting “abuse” cases wrong. She states that “women who have suffered domestic abuse…face an uphill battle” because “some judges have no understanding of domestic abuse…” This implies that training judges will fix the problem, when the facts, evidence and thousands-of-cases refute.
Sodha talks about cuts to legal aid, but the truth is, even women who have money for the best legal help, usually lose. She discusses how parental alienation is mainly being used against mothers, which is true, but does not make clear that alienation is the number one male entitlement tactic, and that after custody is switched, the father is allowed to alienate the children from the mother.
Sodha concludes that the “balance of evidence points to a system that is biased against abused women and children, not innocent, falsely accused men.”
The truth is: the system is not just biased against abused women and children. It systematically and methodically discriminates against all women and children.
PLEASE share widely to help educate moms and the public and dispel the false narratives.
The idea that family courts are biased against men is a dangerous fallacy
Sonia Sodha is chief leader writer at the Observer, and deputy opinion editor at the Guardian
ACTIVISTS: Please tweet @soniasodha! The FRA’s are inundating the reporter’s feed with their BS. Let’s start getting our voices heard. You can link to the FB post or the TWC blog or the The Custody Crisis powerpoint. You can also email the reporter and ask her to write another article dispelling the false narratives: sonia.sodha [at] theguardian.com
[Pictured: Sonia Sodha]
IN A HORRIFIC SCENE, Hannah’s ex ambushed her on the way to school, doused her children and her with gasoline and set them on fire. The children died at the scene, but Hannah was taken to the hospital where she died 12 hours later. The father killed himself at the scene after stopping a bystander from helping Hannah, saying he wanted to see her burn to death.
Hannah had left the marriage in November due to her husband’s violent behavior. It is believed she was granted a restraining order, but the father was allowed to battle her for custody of their three young children.
And therein lies the problem. A father who is violent to the mother or the children should automatically lose his right to custody. Instead, family courts are minimizing violence by fathers and granting them custody, deliberately endangering children.
OUTRAGE at MSM
MUCH of the mainstream media is portraying the father sympathetically saying he was a “good bloke” “a fun-loving ex-NRL star,” and a “dedicated dad” who was upset because he was in a custody battle for his kids. This shows the patriarchal influence over mainstream media.
But fortunately there's an outcry about this compassionate portrayal of a woman/children murderer on social and alternative media:
“#HannahClarke and her kids were murdered by a violent man. Australia’s patriarchal mainstream media spins it as him being a top bloke who was good at sportsball. When are they going to tell the truth about domestic violence?” @DamienWise tweeting outrage at MSM
“You would think that by 2020 people might understand that if a custody battle could lead a man to kill his own children, then there is a reason his ex was trying to keep him the f**k away from them…”
Claire Boland tweet
“#HannahClarke and her kids were murdered by a violent man. Australia’s patriarchal mainstream media spins it as him being a top bloke who was good at sportsball. When are they going to tell the truth about domestic violence?” @DamienWise tweet
'Goodnight my babies’, read a news.com.au headline, as though Rowan was simply tucking his kids in bed instead of brutally setting them on fire.
By leading with a quote from the murderer, this headline centres Rowan as a loving father.
By constantly mentioning the killer’s hobbies and former job – and failing to name Hannah and her children – these stories attempt to soften Rowan’s actions.
By focusing on the custody case and describing Rowan as a dedicated father who was driven crazy after being separated from his kids, these pieces justify his despicable actions and place a degree of blame on Hannah for leaving her clearly dangerous husband and trying to keep her children safe.”
FROM: Stop Calling Murderers “Good Blokes”
“…[T]he media reporting to date fuels the narrative that we know is so damaging. It focuses on the man who fell from grace, as though this act was in isolation.
Time and time again, history has taught us that entitled men kill the women in their life and her children to exert power, control and dominance.
And yet, we hear so little about Hannah and her children. Instead, the narrative implores us to empathise with a “troubled” man or to demonise the killer as some kind of “monster”. This is an exercise in othering.
Overnight, I’ve been contacted by friends of Hannah and they describe her in the most beautiful of ways: A woman with grit, resilience, determination and a wonderful mother and caring partner.
And in spite of all of her life’s achievements, the Australian media has, almost collectively, wanted for us to feel for the person responsible for the deaths of a woman and her children. No thank you. Not today, not ever.
Hannah, I am sorry we failed you. I hope that if there is a life after this world, you’re reunited with Aaliyah, Laianah and Trey where he can’t hurt you anymore ❤️
Post by Tarang Chawla
TWC NOTE: It is a good thing that people are recognizing media bias towards fathers and voicing outrage at the sympathetic portrayal of a killer father, but we also need public outrage at Family Courts for routinely endangering women and children after divorce.
WHY is this happening?
To understand why there is an epidemic of Family Court judges giving custody to abusive fathers, watch this powerpoint video:
The Custody Crisis: Why Women Are Losing Custody & Unable to Protect Their Children
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[Pictured: Hannah, Laianah, Aaliyah and Trey]
"I kept telling the judge, if you're not going to remove the children, they are going to die under his care and custody."
Justyna, Thomas’ mother
Little Thomas died of hypothermia after being forced by his father to sleep in the garage in 19 degrees weather without a mattress, blanket or pillow. His father was caught on tape the next morning pouring a bucket of cold water over Thomas’ head while he was unable to even walk due to hypothermia, and then suffocating him with his hands over his mouth.
New York Family Court Judge Hope Schwartz Zimmerman granted sole custody of Thomas and his brothers to their father two years ago and kept them in his sole custody, despite ongoing severe abuse and neglect documented by his mother and many professionals: counselors, doctors and child protective services workers.
And, as usual, the judge allowed the abusive father to keep all three boys away from their loving mother, Justyna.
Judge Zimmerman disregarded all the evidence of abuse and Justyna’s pleas for protection. Her only concern was keeping the father in power over his children, and over Justyna through her children.
Now Little Thomas is dead, after years of enduring horrific pain and torture, enabled by a biased family court system that routinely grants custody to abusive fathers.
The father has been charged with murder and imprisoned without bond, which is the only reason Justyna has been granted temporary custody of her other boys.
Mother of slain 8-year-old says father was abusive for years
Officer Charged in Murder of Son, 8, Kept in Freezing Garage, Police Say
TWC NOTE: Don’t be distracted by the media’s focus on child protective services’ failure to protect. It is the family court judge who makes the ruling in a contested custody case, so that is who is responsible for the child’s death.
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[Pictured: Justyna and Thomas]
“I cannot live with [my father] anymore. I can’t take any more of his abuse and the courts forcing me to live like a prisoner with [him]. PLEASE HELP ME! I am afraid for my life and will keep running away until I am safe at home with my mom.”
12 year-old Avery
“Clint is sadly still living with his abuser…but not for long. The deviant is being exposed for what he is and the community is rallying to help my children get to safety.”
Kassia, protective mom
12 year-old Avery ran away from her reportedly abusive father 5 days ago in Austin, Texas. The Amber Alert got much media attention, with law enforcement falsely claiming she was in danger with her mother so that the public would turn her in.
A warrant was issued for her mother, Kassia, even though she insisted Avery ran away on her own. Kassia has posted bond and awaits trial.
Avery turned herself in two days ago, and apparently was not forced to return to her father—yet.
Kassia is not allowed to know where her own daughter has been taken, but it is feared that Avery has been forced into “reunification therapy”, which is where children often go when they will not stop reporting abuse. That is where they are tortured into recanting abuse by fathers.
Avery and Kassia have been trying for years to get protection for her little brother, who reported ongoing sexual abuse by his father.
As usual, Family Court covered up the abuse and gave sole custody to the father.
The publicity from Avery running away and bravely writing her letter exposing her father's abuse is gaining public support for her and her brother.
“My sister and her children have been in a nightmare since November of 2016 when my niece made an outcry of sexual abuse to her brother by her father. Many outcries were made by my niece and nephew and investigations…After countless people failed to help/protect Avery and Clint, the children were forcibly removed from Kassia’s custody in July 2019…They have been with their abuser with absolutely no contact with their mother since then.
Avery ran away because she is being tortured mentally for sticking to her guns and stating over and over that she doesn’t want to live with an abuser…Here is Avery’s account, in her own words and writing. I am begging you, for the sake of my niece and nephew to PLEASE SHARE THIS POST. SOMEONE HAS TO HEAR THESE CHILDREN AND HELP THEM!!!”
For more info on the Custody Crisis: https://www.womenscoalitioninternational.org/
To join a local group to help end the crisis: email@example.com
[Pictured: Kassia & kids]
“[Avery] absolutely knew that something bad was going to happen and nobody would believe her unless she had it on film…I would hate for justice not to be served and the system again fail my precious daughter."
Protective Mom Allison
A brave Florida teen, taken away from her mother at a young age and placed in the sole custody of her abusive father, resorted to secretly recording the abuse in the hope of finally being protected.
The teen’s wealthy father was arrested earlier this month after the video surfaced, but was immediately released on a paltry $4,000 bond. The teen was placed temporarily in the custody of her father’s best friend, where he threatened her to stay silent about his abuse of her dog and her or she would be thrown into foster care.
Allison, the teen’s mother, has filed a domestic violence injunction on behalf of her daughter. The father is fighting the injunction, saying a minor’s counsel should represent the teen’s interests. But, as most protective mothers know, children’s attorneys often side with abusive fathers, especially wealthy ones.
Allison has been fighting unsuccessfully for her daughter virtually her entire childhood. The judge apparently made false findings that she was mentally ill and a drug addict in order to justify giving sole custody to the father.
Although it is being portrayed the reason the girl was not protected is that she was not believed. However, that is implausible as she has been reporting abuse for years.
The truth is she was systematically discredited and silenced, just like millions of other children around the world, where systems function to maintain the father’s control and entitlement, regardless of how abusive he is.
Hopefully, since this case is getting international attention, the teen will be spared the usual outcome—forced to continue to live with her abusive father—and instead be returned to the loving arms of her protective mother.
Watch this page for updates.
FOLLOWING are excerpts from:
Mother of teen who captured video of alleged abuser: 'She is absolutely my hero'
Tringas said she and her daughter tried reporting the abuse for years, but she said authorities did not believe them.
That's when the teen installed a Nest camera to capture the actions of 47-year-old Damon Becnel.
“Nothing was done. Nothing has ever been done to help my daughter," said [Allison] Tringas.
“She absolutely knew that something bad was going to happen and nobody would believe her unless she had that on film," added Tringas.
In the videos, you can watch Becnel scream, point and headbutt the girl.
The video also shows Becnel hitting the dog, holding an object to its neck and threatening to cut the animal's throat.
His arrest report states that the object was a knife.
“What he did in one night is going to probably take years to undo," said Tringas.
Becnel was arrested and charged with one count of child abuse and one count of animal abuse.
Tringas is thankful her daughter took matters into her own hands.
“She is one strong and one smart little girl and I couldn’t be more proud of her. She is absolutely my hero. She is my hero. I would hate for justice not to be served and the system, again, fail my precious daughter," said Tringas.
Becnel was released on a $4,000 bond. He's scheduled to appear in court on February 4.
FOR MORE INFORMATION on the Custody Crisis:
[Pictured: Protective Mother Allison]
Jennifer Dulos, mom of five, disappeared last May, and her ex was finally charged with murder on Thursday. There is considerable physical evidence that supports her ex murdered her, and he being held on $6 million bail.
Jennifer feared for her children’s and her lives after filing for divorce, but, despite credible evidence her ex was a serious threat to her children and her, Judge Donna Heller denied a protective order and kept her embroiled in a custody battle with him for over two years.
Domestic violence advocates and legislators are being interviewed by the media in regards to Jennifer’s case, and are insinuating that judges are making “mistakes” giving custody to “abusers” (male or female), and they are proposing more training, "tools" and laws.
The truth is judges know exactly what they are doing when they deny protection to women and children and give custody to controlling and abusive fathers. The system is designed so judges can violate the law with impunity, but the larger problem is that judges are falsely finding women to be liars, alienators, mentally ill or emotionally abusive to justify switching custody to fathers. No amount of training, tools or new laws will stop that from occurring.
Family Court was created by men, for men, after their power in the family was threatened by women gaining the power to leave a marriage. So it should not be surprising that men created a system which perpetuates male control after divorce.
This is the dirty little secret that women don't know about until it is too late—until after they lose and/or are unable to protect their children. Then they are gag ordered to not speak about their case, which helps keep women and the public in the dark about this epidemic.
The Women's Coalition is now forming local activist groups for the purpose of forming a coalition powerful enough to demand and achieve an end to the custody crisis.
If you would like to be part of your local group, email firstname.lastname@example.org. Put "local group" in the subject line.
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When Fotis Dulos was arrested, police and advocates had a message: ‘It’s a case of domestic violence’
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For more information on the custody crisis: https://www.womenscoalitioninternational.org
[Pictured: Jennifer and her children]
Cindy Dumas, M.A. has been researching, writing, and raising awareness about the Custody Crisis since 2003, when she was unable to protect her children from their abusive father. She fled into hiding when Family Court failed her and was tricked into returning home, when her children were given to their abusive father.